Affirmations and Energy Flow
There is a flow of energy in, out, through your body and between yourself and others that you can become aware of and affect depending on how you phrase your affirmation and how you visualize yourself as you say it.
I feel happy is an inward perspective. It's how I feel about myself, looking in. It creates a feeling and image independent of others; my inner world. I focus on feelings of happiness within myself. Energetically, I see myself and my energy flowing within me.
I am happy is a statement. It affirms a current state of being independent of others. It's how I feel about myself: just being. I imagine myself alone feeling happy, in some three dimensional space. Energetically I see myself and my energy flowing around and through me.
Self-Contained Energy Flow:
I am happy with people affirms a current state of being while in the presence of others outside of myself. I imagine myself with others feeling happy in their presence independent of any emotion they feel. I see myself and my energy around me, aware of their presence in three dimensional space. There is no exchange of energy between myself and others. My energy is self-contained. This is important when using affirmations such as "When someone gets angry I remain calm." I visualize myself being calm while in the presence of someone who is angry, seeing my own energy as separate from the other person.
Self-Contained Energy Flow with Others:
I feel happy with people is an inward perspective still but it's how I feel internally in relation to others. I imagine myself with others feeling happy in their presence. I see myself and my energy around me still, aware of their presence in three dimensional space, and imagine an energetic flow between myself and them in both directions, focusing on my flow of energy to them.
People feel happy with me is an outward perspective; It's how others feel about me. I imagine others with me, feeling happy in my presence. I see myself and my energy around me, aware of their presence in three dimensional space, and imagine an energetic flow between myself and them in both directions, focusing on their flow of energy to me.
When People feel happy with me I feel happy is both an inward and outward perspective; It's how others feel about me and how I react to their feelings. I imagine others with me feeling happy in my presence and me feeling happy in their presence. I see myself and my energy around me still, aware of their presence in three dimensional space and imagine an energetic flow between myself and them in both directions, focusing on both flows of energy.
As stated before, I feel that saying affirmations in any way possible will be beneficial so at first you need not worry about these energy flow distinctions. As you continue your practice however you may find these subtle distinctions helpful. Remember that you are recreating a feeling in yourself, changing your emotional diet. The more complete you make the affirmation, the more effective that diet will be.
Final Thoughts on Energy Flow:
Maybe as a child someone important to you said you were unworthy of love. As a result you felt unworthy of love, internalized it, and feel it now consciously and unconsciously. Saying "I feel worthy of love," "I am worthy of love," "I feel worthy of love with people," "I feel worthy of love from people" and "I feel worthy of giving and receiving love with people," being aware of your energy flow and what you visualize with each statement, will add to the impact you have on yourself to create a new positive feeling of self worth.
Other Phrasing with Affirmations
I allow myself gives yourself permission to think, feel or react in some way, for example "I allow myself to feel happy." This is an important phrasing because sometimes underlying emotions and past events create resistance to saying an affirmation. Even without knowing the reasons why an affirmation is difficult to say, the I allow myself phrasing gives yourself permission to start to feel the way you want right now. You are not saying you are happy right at the moment, you are just saying you will let yourself feel that way, at some point. Other phrases such as I feel worthy of , I am open to experiencing or I allow some thing to come into my life are useful when you find yourself unwilling to feel what you are saying. Even when you are comfortable saying an affirmation, using these phrasings can be helpful too, since they all create a feeling of hope; they allow for the possibility of new feelings in your life.
Affirmations with People in Your Past
It can be very healing to create affirmations with people in your past, even if you no longer interact with them or they are no longer alive. Perhaps a parent was disrespectful of your emotional boundaries. Having identified this as an issue, you create an affirmation to address this, for example, "My emotional boundaries are worthy of being respected." Knowing however that your tendency to let people violate your emotional boundaries started with your Father, saying "My emotional boundaries are worthy of being respected by my Father," while imagining yourself in the presence of your father, imagining your energy self-contained in his presence, and feeling strong, can help heal the hurt and bad feelings created by his violation into your personal space. It's like going back in time and creating a new dynamic in your mind between you and your Father. As an adult, you can repeat this affirmation as many times as needed to create a new feeling of respect for your own boundaries.
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